We all know the stereotype, the conventional wisdom: men are insatiable sexual deviants willing to do anything at any time if it means sexual satisfaction and this is true until the day they die.

I’m here to tell you that not only is the pop culture stereotype untrue, it can actually be hurtful to men who are seeing the sun set on their sexual prime. Think about it, if men are constantly being bombarded with the “knowledge” that they’re supposed to be virile right up until the day they die then any of the many men who are suffering from a flagging libido are going to be afraid to say anything about it or pursue some sort of treatment.

It’s the same idea as media presenting an unrealistic female body type and causing low self-esteem. So what do we do about it?

Well, the first thing to do is to admit that there’s a problem. There are three very common reasons for a sagging male libido, and we’ll deal with all of them in detail later, but let’s shine some light on the elephant in the room first. If you find yourself unsatisfied with your sex drive then right there is the problem and maybe there’s something you can do to fix it.

You can’t let ego be a factor. There are countless men out there who are having the exact same libido problem but they’re afraid to ask the questions that need to be asked. What’s causing this? Is it normal? What can I do to fix it? There are answers to all of these questions in easy reach, you just have to be willing to ask. And think about it, if you’re worried about your decreased libido being a source of inadequacy, wouldn’t fixing the problem take away that feeling of lacking something?

Not to mention you have to consider how your partner feels about your decreased libido. That’s not to say that your partner is going to be judging you, thinking of you as “less of a man” because of your decreased libido, just that maybe your partner might be interested in sex more often than you are and that fixing your libido might help to satisfy your partner a bit more.

On the other hand it’s perfectly possible that your partner is satisfied with your libido and frequency of sex. It’s all about communication. If you’re with a partner who cares about you enough that they’re willing to have built a relationship with you then odds are that partner is going to care about your well-being and happiness with your libido is a factor there.

At the end of the day, men, the question has to be whether or not you’re happy with your sexual desire. If that answer is no, maybe it’s time to look into some treatments.

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